Resolving resolutions
Recently I was over at Sacred Ordinary reading a list of questions that help wind down the year. I wrote them down for myself and tried to answer them in one sitting. It was quite an exercise. After a few days I looked at the answers I had written, and found a theme to my past year: feelings of sadness, loneliness, and loss.
Thinking about resolutions for the New Year, 2006. Is that not something that is on most of our minds about this time of the year? Something about coming into the lightness of spring, the new year ... out of the dark of winter?
I become weary to the bone.
Right about now I think my best resolution for the New Year is to live one day at a time, trying to seize the moments that refuse to be ordinary, and hope for the best.
Sounds like an excellent resolution to me. Do you mind if I borrow it?
Posted by: broke | December 26, 2005 at 12:16 PM
Me too; resolutions for me seem like rules. I'm not good at keeping within tracks. I think one day at a time is achievement enough.
Thanks Tamar for the link to the list, there is a lot to reflect on there.
Posted by: ainelivia | December 26, 2005 at 04:22 PM
broke, thanks for stopping by. Yes, you may borrow it (hm ... will you be giving it back?) or even pass it on ... if you like.
ainelivia,
Fran's list gives a person a lot to think about! Am glad it is useful for you.
Posted by: Tamar | December 26, 2005 at 04:49 PM
This is a terrible time of year. I am afflicted with Seasonal Affective Disorder, are you? Trying Lexapro for it. Trying to get through the misery of the "holiday season" and my birthday, with a dark and cold January to look forward to - well. My advice: lots of exercise and some good books and funny movies. Things will get better.
Posted by: Melinama | December 26, 2005 at 06:05 PM
melinama,
Do you know? I think I've seen "Hitch" three times this weekend and ROFL each time! Humor helps everything. That's for sure.
Posted by: Tamar | December 27, 2005 at 08:12 AM
Tamar, I think yours is a wise resolution and one that seems to fit my circumstances as well. And yes, humour as well - an absolutely vital ingredient.
Posted by: Mary | December 27, 2005 at 12:37 PM
This is the first time I've been to your blog Tamar, though I've seen your comments on some of the blogs I regularly visit....I like your site...warm and insightful. I think I might need to add you to my blogroll. By the way, your resolution is a good one... definitely appropriate for me too. Happy New Year!
Posted by: Joy Des Jardins | December 27, 2005 at 04:03 PM
Joy Des Jardins,
Thanks so much for stopping by. It's a first for me too, to visit your site, even though I have seen you here, there and many places too.
Mary,
Laughter has gotten me through an amazing amount of pain! Let's laugh our way through into the New Year!
Posted by: Tamar | December 28, 2005 at 09:14 AM
Tamar, thanks for mentioning Out of the ordinary's list of questions. I am in the process of answering them ;)
The "holiday season" is probably the worst time of year to answer them. I bet you you'd answer differently in a "normal" season.
A happy 2006.
Posted by: Claude | December 28, 2005 at 10:45 AM
I feel the same as you describe yourself as feeling, Tamar, but I keep on keeping on. A friend is spending the night and we know it is about expectations--and truth be told, about time running out. We realize we have to live life a day at a time because in reality it's not going to go on forever.
I post a few more questions at Sacred Ordinary today via Lisa's A Capacious Redux diary newsletter. She has a new blog. Yippee!
Posted by: Fran | December 29, 2005 at 02:14 AM
Claude, I agree! Wonderful! Resolutions should be made in the middle of the year and not in times of angst, nostalgia and confusion.
Fran,
Your list surely got me thinking. It was grand. Thank you for new ones to consider ... I think ... thanks ... I think.
Posted by: Tamar | December 29, 2005 at 09:43 AM