[A species of Plumbago in my garden]
Yesterday I was asked to think about why I am so invested in feeling to blame for other people's problems/behaviors/issues ...
The revelation about the why comes as I am twisting into yoga postures or sitting silently in meditation.
So here goes - perhaps:
If I am to blame -
If I think it is all about me -
Then I have the illusion that I can change it - [if it is about me, I can surely work at fixing me - there is something I can and must do about it]
An illusion that I am in control in a helpless situation - [I think I was taught that something must and can always be done to fix it]
The discomfort is in the holding still - [in doing nothing - not reacting, not fixing me/it]
Accepting that -
It is not about me -
There is absolutely nothing -
I can do about changing them.