Today, as I drove into work, I found myself wondering what I would say if I was ever asked in an interview about what I considered the secrets of my success.
"First," I thought, "I had the courage to face myself with self reflection through therapy and in-depth, internal ethnography."
Second: I learned to hold still with painful feelings of anger and regret - not suppress or deny them - especially in the face of hurtful behaviors from others. When I validate my feelings, I find space to understand that other people's behaviors are not about me - rather they are manifestations of their own insecurities, stuck in old, irrelevant paradigms, or seeking blame outside of themselves.
Third - and this has been key for me: Allowing myself to experience my feelings opens me up to send love and light out to those who hurt me, and, then just let them go.
A year ago at Mining Nuggets: Spirituality