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April 13, 2006

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fp

"I realized that children of divorce carry abandonment feelings and memories with them forever. I am a child of divorce. My son is too. One day one of our nearest and dearest people packed their bags, boxed up their stuff and moved away to another house. And nothing was the same again. Always longing, forever yearning for something missing, remained in their place."

Thank you for putting words around that truth.

Richard Lawrence Cohen

Thank you for this (and for the link). I've been finding it hard to blog lately too. Not for the reasons you mention, but because of the stresses of life, which need to be answered before I can do this luxurious activity, and because of competing writing projects. Today I had an especially hard time getting something out, and almost announced a haitus, but the thought of fellow bloggers kept me going. I'm glad of that. So you keep going too, okay?

Chancy

Yes...you keep going.

Where else am I going to find a thought provoking post like your recent one on anger. Your inate ability to share your private thoughts is what makes your blog unique.

savtadotty

Tamar - not to deny the special sadness of children of divorce, but children of intact marriages suffer similar feelings of having the rug pulled out from under them too, when there is a major change in family configuration: for example, a beloved older sibling leaves home or a parent dies. You post reminds me that Loss is something we can all relate to. And make meaning out of.

mary

... and it is such a relief to know I am not the only one. Thank you Tamar.

Like Savtadotty, I am not a child of divorce but I am a child of a home that often felt very emotionally unsafe indeed while I was growing up. To give meaning to the legacy of that in my adulthood, to find my voice, is part of what I am trying to do on my blog. And the courage you show in your writing over here has helped me in so many ways.

Don't you dare stop! *grin*

Tamar

Mary,
Your "twaddle" post inspired this one as I had been feeling similarly to you recently. So ... thank *you* ... so ... don't *you* dare stop! *grin*

Savtadotty,
Yes I agree. There are so many different situations throughout our life that cause those feelings - not only divorce. It reminds me of that wonderful book by Judith Viorst: "Necessary Losses."

Thank you, Chancy. Sometimes I need that bit of encouragement to help me keep on keeping on ...

Also, fp ... thanks so much. Your acknowledgment means a lot to me.

Dear Richard,
Each time I consider a period of hiatus a post pops out of me before I can say "hi" and "atus." I admire how you take that from time to time and I always miss you until you come back!

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